Everyone, happy Friday. For today’s column, I am going to look at a post from Reddit and determine if somebody is in the wrong for not wearing a bra to work.
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Okay, here’s the context for today’s column courtesy of one of Reddit’s famous Am I The A**hole? (AITA?) style posts. Here’s what one person asked:
23 Non-Binary AFABB members have given up wearing bras to work. My job as an early childhood teaching assistant means that I’m constantly reaching down for toys or to talk to the children. I have been experiencing a lot pain from my bra, which digs in to me every day. I have decided to start wearing a tank top under my clothes instead of a bra and I wear lots of layers anyway so, despite having a bigger than average chest, it really isn’t noticeable that I’m not wearing a bra.
One day, while playing with one child, I removed my top layer. However, I did have a tank, a tshirt and some overalls on so I was well covered. Even though this was not the case, my boss called me in to review my choices. Before he suggested that I wear a bra with children, I didn’t know what 42M was talking about. I was shocked that he’d even point it out. I told him I felt that I could live without one if it wasn’t obvious and that wearing one was causing me a lot of pain. His advice was to keep my job and not to make it uncomfortable. ‘unwritten dress code’. I said I would not be wearing one going forward unless the school were willing to pay for one of the comfortable sports bras they make for larger chests (they usually range in price from £70-£150). My boss claimed that I had been unreasonable in my requests, and that I should wear a bra from now on. Even if parents had complained, I’d understand. But no one except him has spoken out.
AITA?
Yes, sweetheart, I am sorry to say you are the a**hole. Although I understand the reasoning behind this, it is a bit confusing.
You’re asking this question and your role is to work with children. You must be respectful. Your boss was completely reasonable. It is his job to be comfortable. You have to show up at work.
There is a standard, of course, that when you show up to work, you’re supposed to look professional. You can’t just walk around wearing whatever you want. Whether you work with children or not, that’s true at every company.
Even more absurd is the idea that your employer must pay for a bra because you need it to make you feel more comfortable.
Any parent dropping their child off at school, daycare or club will assume that the adult arriving to work is appropriately dressed.
For some reason, many people have forgotten that decency matters — especially in front of kids.
The post reminds me of the woman who applied to our nannying job. You’d be surprised at how she arrived at our house in her booty shorts. We were hiring her! The top was low-cut and she was wearing shorts.
What on Earth would I allow her to do at a park with me dressed in this way?
That would be completely inappropriate.
It’s confusing to me that she would need somebody to sit her down in an office and essentially say, “Hey, you need to dress appropriately in front of small children.”
The question should be asked “What’s appropriate for children?” is a difficult one for you to answer, then you probably shouldn’t have a job around kids.
To be honest, it doesn’t sound as if this person is even mentally fit for the job at all — and not just because she doesn’t want to wear a bra. Your bosses should have known that you call yourself nonbinary. You must believe in radical gender ideology that’s not based on truth and is wreaking havoc throughout the West.
These radical ideas about gender, and all the associated nonsense, must be removed from classrooms. The entire goal of this ideology is to break down boundaries so that children can consent to certain sexual things — which they definitely cannot.
That is what you get. “nonbinary”Believe it or not, women think they can let their skin show in front of minors.
So yes, to answer your question, you are the a**hole. The person must stay 300ft away from all daycares and playgrounds, as well as avoid children, until they put on a bra.
It’s that simple.
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