There’s a new dating trend and, as someone who gets the ick, I’m not a fan.
It’s called “Power PDA” and it’s basically described as getting “handsy” with your lover – a whole lot of kissing and touching in public that makes onlookers feel super awkward.
The other day, I was on an airplane from Melbourne to Sydney and witnessed it. They were full on making out in front me, with their tongues and light grunting completely blind to the others around them. I was the only one who saw them through the gaps between the seats, even though I tried to binge-watch. Real Housewives of Beverly Hills. Highly distracting.
Now don’t get me wrong, after a few G and T’s, I too may have partaken in ridiculous antics in the back of a pub once upon a time, but on a plane, in the middle of the day?! Outrageous!
We’re seeing it more and more post-lockdown. Think Kourtney Kardashian and Travis Scott making out in front of their kids on Check out the Kardashians’ Instagram Stories, Machine Gun Kelly and Megan Fox frenching on the red carpet, and if you’ve stumbled upon Megan Thee Stallion’s latest Instagram post, you will see her butt in her boyfriend’s face while he’s attempting to play Mario Kart.
Now don’t get me wrong, if my butt looked like hers, I would probably get it on the gram as well … but the old prude in me still goes ‘eww, you use that thing to go to the bathroom! Not as a dinner plate’.
I’m not a heartless, non-affectionate person. My preference is to be intimate in the bedroom. Or only briefly out in public. One example: I went on a roadtrip with someone who made my heart sing. We stopped at a gas station to pick up snacks. His light-hearted gesture was a compliment to my butt and he walked by me in the candy aisle. It was not awkward for me, but I felt a lot more confident. THAT’S how you do Power PDA.
People who are trying to show their affectionate side in public, I question. The pessimist within me wonders why they’re trying so hard.
Let’s take, for example, Meghan and Harry. We watch her cling to him in public as if she will lose him if they don’t hold hands. Next, take a look at William and Kate. They stand tall, strong and independent – yet united. For me, that’s a sign of a sturdy marriage. They are two people who can be strong for themselves, but give one another a side-eye whenever they need. They can prove their union without a Power-PDA.
Do you think this is a sign insecurity? Perhaps. Lust? Maybe. They can be a nuisance to others. Definitely.
We are no longer our teenage selves, who used to be horsy, but we now have our own houses and rooms with locks, so that we can share those intimate moments. And let’s be honest, when you’re in the early stages of romance, is there anything better than being cute and polite at the hotel reception desk, before racing up the lift to your room to get naked? Nope.
Although, according to Bumble’s latest statistics, more than 68 percent of their users say they’re more open to public displays of affection post-pandemic. And yes, I get it, habitually when we’re told we can’t do something, we just want to do it more. So it makes sense that all my fellow singletons came out of lockdown like hormonal teenagers, but can we draw a line at seeing each other’s tongues touching in the cinema line?
I’m calling it, Power PDA is a dating fad and I will happily wish it a fond farewell.
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